My Grandmother has suffered a series of falls, starting in Nov 2016. She has a broken C1 vertebra (this will never heal, she will remain in a C collar for the remainder of her life), a broken L7 vertebra in her back (same situation, back brace) and has had 2 significant brain bleeds (most recent one on March 28 2017). She was living at home after a 5 week stay in between a hospital and rehab stay discharged Dec 30 2016. But, has been progressing on a down hill slide. This most recent fall hospitalized her for 4 days (comatose) and she is now in a skilled facility to receive rehab once more. She continues to decline, will not eat, drinks very little and is refusing rehab treatments. She in her words not mine "Is tired and weary, and just wish She would have died the last time she fell". She was found after being unconscious for approx 6 to 8 hours. Believe me, no one is in her corner more then I am to fight for her. But, at this point I am more concerned with her comfort then her rehab. She has zero quality of life. She is bed or wheelchair bound and can only get up or move with assistance. She will never make it back home. She has bone cancer (2001) that has been held at bay by monthly infusions. My question is a few parts
When is it the right time to consider Hospice?
Can she go under hospice and if she does start to get better, go back into a rehab facility?
Do people "give up" once they get into hospice?
Let me state again, I do not want anything but the best for her, but at the point she is at I am most concerned with her comfort not getting her better. I would love nothing more for her to gain some will back and recover, but her attitude and her health just don't seem to be cooperating with her at this point. I don't want to give up on her, but I am also not going to stand by and watch her suffer anymore. My uncle lives in another state, and while he does not prevent me from.exploring options for her care, I truly don't believe we are on the same page as far as her condition. I see her continually sliding down the hill, he only sees her for a few days every few months so he doesn't see the day to day decline. I, in my heart, feel she is not going to pull out of this one, and want to make sure that everything is being done to keep her as happy and comfortable as we can until the end, whether it be weeks or months from now. Am I wrong to think like this? And who do I ask for more information on Hospice? Her Dr? Her social worker?