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My mom was admitted to hospice care officially two days ago, after not eating for three days and barely drinking for two. She has now not ate in 5 days and not drank in 4 (occasional ice chip for dry mouth). The last 24 hours she has mostly slept but during the night she has developed a fever. I was expecting her body to start cooling as her final days approached. Is a fever common also?

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Huddlo, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you big virtual {{{hugs}}}.
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"Nothing in life will call upon us to be more courageous than facing the fact that it ends. But on the other side of heartbreak is wisdom." ~ film, I Wish I Was here.

My sincere condolences to you and your family.
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So sorry for your loss Huddlo.   This is a very difficult thing to go through.   Your mom is at peace now.
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Huddlo, so sorry for your loss.
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Awe, I'm sorry Huddlo. 
I'm glad your mom doesn't have to fight this anymore.....peace
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Huddlo (((((((hugs))))) and my deepest condolences
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Huddlo, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm glad, though, that you were able to come here and get some advice and answers from those who have been through it.

There's nothing that can prepare us for the loss of a parent, and losing your Mom is especially hard. Sending you big hugs....we know how hard this is. Take your time grieving, and don't let anyone tell you in the coming weeks/ months that you should be "over it" - this is a different process for everyone. Grieve in your own time and handle things as you need to. You're always welcome to come back here and vent or talk to us if you need to as well. Many of us have been there.
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Huddlo, I'm so sorry for your loss. Be comforted by good memories.
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My mom passed away today at 12:15pm. She is free from the dreadful hold of dementia. I will miss her terribly.
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Hang in there. The hospice nurse was off with my mom. She had said she had two weeks to live and then proceeded to count down. She was on vacation having insisted my mother had two weeks to live but died within 4 days in my eyes but her body gave out in 5. The process for me went very fast once it started. Just talk with her, let her know everyone is going to be ok. Hold her hand a lot. Reassure her that you know she is tired and that it's ok to go be with whomever is closest to her instead of with you. It's not easy. The important part is she needs to know that everyone will be ok. That makes the letting go easier.

I sat with my mom until the end. She passed away as I expected despite the nurses still insisting on it being days not hours. I called them and said it would be hours due to her breathing through the night with labor loud breathing. They insisted she still had a week left but they would stop by midafternoon. I called my dad who was at work saying there were hours. I was right, 3 hours later she died peacefully. It was hard yet peaceful.

Just take it easy on yourself and her. Let things progress as they will. It's really hard to watch but stay strong and positive. She's so lucky to have you guys with her and for you to be so patient with her.
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Sending you peace and support. This stuff is SO hard...but the positive is that your mom is surrounded by loving family...so she's blessed in that respect.
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Still thinking of you huddlo and your family.

Sending prayers and strength,

Hugs, Bella
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I'm not sure what she could be waiting for. No events coming up or new baby's. I'm the only family she has left. My brother died last year, and my dad the year before. So she has me and my husband and our two little girls. We have been around. Both with her and giving her space (I know some prefer to pass alone).
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Huddle is Mom waiting for something? There is often someone they want to see or an event like a new baby.
You have recieved excellent advise above so try and stay positive.
Hospice nurses are indeed good at giving you a time frame but what they see are changes from day to day. One day it may look like two weeks and the next three days then that night or hours.
As a hospice nurse I once told another nurse that her patient would pass at 10 am on Sunday morning. Not because I was psychic but because I had seen her and knew the time was short and she and hubby were very religious and had their own service every Sunday morning. The nurse called me at midday to tell me that I had been correct. Many patients did pass on a Sunday if they had strong religeous beliefs.
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My mom is still holding on. I've told her it is ok to go. I just hate seeing her like this.
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Oops, correction to my posting above... it should read 48 hours instead of 48 days.
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I am so sorry about your mom. Spend whatever time you have to be near her, hold her hand, tell her you love her and it's ok to leave.
Yes it's very difficult to watch but you will cherish this time you have together. It's a hard time but was very spiritual for me. I was so blessed to have been there with my mother.
It was also the most difficult time of my life at the same time.
My thoughts are with you.
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Thinking of you huddlo...

Sending you courage and a big hug
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Do take the time now to say anything you feel needs to be said to your loved one.

Both my parents were on hospice. With my dad, the hospice said he had about two weeks - daddy passed about four days later. When hospice told me my mom was "transitioning" and it would be several days to a week - I immediately went and saw my mom. Mom passed about 16 hours later.

Yes - hospice nurses are the experts in recognizing the signs of imminent death - but often times death occurs on its own timetable.

I'm so sorry for what your going through.
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Sorry to hear of your news, Huddlo. Take care of yourself.
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Thanks for the response. Yesterday they told me it could be a few days to a week. Today they said it is hard to tell. They did tell me that fever is normal, as well as the higher heart rate she has right now. I just hate this process. It is so hard to watch.
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Huddlo, so sorry to read about your mother. Your best bet as to how much time is left is to ask the Hospice nurse. The nurses are very good at giving you a ballpark time frame, and some can actually narrow it down to a couple of days.

When my Mom was on Hospice, I got a call that within 48 days she would be passing, and the Hospice was right on that call. Same with my Dad.
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