They are saying my mom is passing and we have no insurance. I can’t even afford a cremation right now. She had social security that has been sent back from the nursing home since February when she was hospitalized. I am only medical POA, not even rep payee yet. Can that be used? I don’t know what to do and don’t really want to give her to medical science. We are in NC.
The best people to speak with now are your mom's caregivers. If you have no funds and SHE has no funds that needs to be made clear to all when she has passed. They will have social workers to contact to guide you. If you are POA you may now want to ask for her to be on Hospice both to ease and comfort you and her as she dies, and to suggest best way to address your concerns re a simple and low cost cremation. This is the sort of thing their Social Workers and Clergy can help you with. Hospice is FREE and it is covered by Medicare.
ASK for HOSPICE right away.
My Mom recently passed and we handled it this way. The company was very respectful. The company we used was RESEARCH FOR LIFE.
I was in a similar situation when my dad died, but I found there is assistance for those who cannot afford a funeral and I was helped by the local authority (UK).
So, I know how trying this is and I want to tell you to not feel bad about your circumstances. Everyone deserves dignity and compassion. Please show it to yourself.
Take care.
May The Lord give you strength, guidance and comfort for this new season in life.
When you feel like it, perhaps, you could share how you were able to deal with this situation.
"Hi guys. I’m doing ok. Mom got 10 more years after her first arrest which occurred the day before her birthday. She passed two weeks before her birthday which was yesterday. Ironically she was always sad around it cause her aunt who raised her died on her birthday.
As far as her cremation… in NC you have to wait 10 days before social services will help and 10 more days before they actually do it. The lady called yesterday and I think they are gonna help. Between the county she passed in and the one we are from… they are trying to pass it on each other. Meanwhile she is still at the hospital. I was told that some county’s don’t give remains back but both of these do. Also I tried to find online resources and there are some that pay if you apply for military, babies and certain conditions. I hope this helps. Ty"
It will be less expensive if you have your mom cremated than to have her buried, that's a fact.
I know you say that you are moms medical POA, so who is her financial POA? They should be able to access her monies and take care of her final expenses as needed.
The OP's Mom passed on 8/2/25
"The hospital said she was [passing] and she now has [passed]. Ty. I spoke with social worker guy this morning about it and he provided resources."
I'm sorry for this difficult loss. May you receive peace in your heart as you move through the grief.
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