I haven’t been active on here in a while due to yet another situation with my dad. He had moved to to his new facility about an hour away from my home. He was only there maybe a week and a half and they called and said they had sent him out (called 911) for evaluation. He hit one of the female residents. He went to the emergency room at a small hospital and was supposed to be admitted to a geri-psych bed. He waited in the ER over a week (I know this sounds unbelievable but it happened). He ended up being re-evaluated by psych and they said he could return to his facility....I also about that time received word that my dad was nonverbal and unable to even stand without assistance and had been that way all day. I had not visited him in the ER because it was not a locked facility and I knew my dad would run after me resulting in more traumatic events for he and I. The hospital ended up admitting my dad to a regular hospital bed due to his decline he also had fever of 102. That same day the director of his facility called me and told me that the state had done an investigation on my dad's behavior and he would not be able to return to their facility.
My dad’s rapid decline was due to a UTI which is being treated now. Today I went to see him and he is back to walking, trying to say words, eating etc. I am literally so wiped out and just at the end of my rope with all of this. I feel like I can barely even type this.
There are three centers in the state of North Carolina that take aggressive Alzheimer's patients and that is now what we are faced with once he becomes medically stable. Yesterday he was unable to do anything at all and I really thought maybe this was the end of his disease process but now he is bouncing back only to be placed in an environment that I find devastating. I feel there is such a lack of education for the workers at these memory care facilities and it so much easier to deem a resident as aggressive that doesn’t fit the bill of sitting and watching tv all day just so they do not have to put in the extra work. I am so sad and literally feel helpless with all of this. Please send good vibes my way as this upcoming week will hold some of the most difficult circumstances for me and my entire family.