I am now the full-time caregiver for my elderly mother. I am an only child, so it all falls to me. Although my mother can still stay at home by herself during the day, she no longer has the memory or strength to do the daily tasks around the house. I do everything from giving her her medication daily, doing her (and my) finances, taking care of the house, laundry, shopping, taking her to appointments, fixing meals, etc., etc., etc. I work full time; so that, along with taking care of my mom, fills up my days.
My problem is that several years ago, before my father passed away and I became Mom's caregiver, my aunt (my father's sister) designated me as the executor of her estate. Never mind that she never asked me if I'd be willing to do it (she did not) - she just appointed me because "I was single and had the time to do it." Ugh! So as not to hurt her feelings (and because I was a little bit chicken), I did not refuse. But now that I not only have a full-time job but another full-time job taking care of my mother, I would like to let my aunt know that she needs to find another executor. Does anyone have any thoughts on how I could do that without hurting her feelings too terribly? She is a single woman who never married so has no husband or children to do it. And all of her siblings are now gone. She chose me over her other nieces and nephew because I was the "single one." I don't want to lose touch with her because she' family, but I have a feeling that this might do that. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks so much in advance!