My mother is 94 and for the last year-and-a-half, we have been taking care of my mom. We now have her at a very nice Assisted Living place that she is slowly adjusting to. Compared to the stories and issues many people have, we do have it pretty easy. The problem is my sister.
I always try to find the good qualities in people, but my sister is not easy to get along with. She has not lifted a finger to help in any way with Mom. But then she called her up and invited her to come up to Milwaukee for Thanksgiving. Milwaukee is a four and a half hour drive from here, and she had no intention to come get her. She never called me she just called my mom who now wants to go to Milwaukee. Mom rather amusingly thinks it's only about a half hour drive. So, her grandson could pick her up on the way home from work.
Oh, and my sister refuses to call me, so I called her and tried to explain to her that we were not going to be driving mother up to Milwaukee on that Thanksgiving, that our family was going to be here in our city, and that she was welcome to come visit us. Oh, and by the way my mother has edema, is on various forms of medication that my sister has no idea about, and also can barely walk.
Sis did not care, shouted at me, and hung up on me.
I did call her son, and tried to explain my end of the situation, not sure it got across. They have called my mother, and she is very confused, and does keep saying that she wishes she could go to Milwaukee.
Yes, they appear to be somewhat concerned that mom may pass away without them seeing her, but they sure aren't making it easy.
If you have any sage advice, I'd be glad to hear it. Happy Thanksgiving