Should I confront my dad about his "hidden" plans to move in with my alcoholic brother?
I just found out that my dad is planning to leave the Assisted Living care home and move in with my alcoholic brother. They had one visit in August for 3 hours that was the first time in years that it was a nice visit, first time it did not melt down into screaming yelling accusations. Now my aunt tells me that he is planning on moving 450 miles away to another state to live with his son. Part of me wants to just let him go, but he has enough dementia that he's not making good choices so I was wondering if anybody had any advice if I should confront him or Let It Go until he tells me he's leaving. I do believe if he leaves he will be committing slow painful miserable suicide. But I think he is still mentally aware enough to be a huge problem for myself and my husband if we stop him from making this choice. He is here in the city we live in by his choice, he called us and asked for help, we went and got him in July he was almost dead, doctors told us at the emergency room had we waited another week we would have been having a funeral. Please help. Thank you all for all the wonderful advice, stories and information you provide it has helped me through one of the hardest times of my adult life. If you need more information please ask for specifics, the situation is a convoluted mess and I do not know if there is more I should be telling. Oops, I guess I should clarify that he has been leading me to believe he is settling in and doing well. So I am a bit shocked to find out he is planning on going to live with his son, the angry alcoholic.