At 52 I have graduated from raising my son to raising my parents. Both of my 84+ year old parents have lived in my home for the last 5-years as a result of my mother's purposeful financial negligence. They lost everything in a lottery scam and went into bankruptcy because she refused to listen to reason. To date she has never apologized or even accepted responsibility for this and my disgust with her self-centeredness has gotten to the point where I can barely stand to be in the same room with her. She continues to be wasteful with their limited income and numerous attempts to discuss this and my frustration with her behavior have only resulted in her refusing too talk and ends in misery for all concerned.
My gracious and very support wife tells me they are too old to change but ironically enough my parents taught me to take responsibility for one’s actions and it infuriates me she seems to think she exempt. Fortunately they are both still mobile but unable to take care of themselves either financially or physically. Is it unreasonable or senseless to expect an I’m sorry from a woman who significantly and negatively changed her family’s lives? Writing this I’m afraid the answer is yes which means the question should have been how to make my parents move out of our home. The sad thing is my Dad is a great guy that has to suffer through all this fighting and would be welcome to stay. I am a first time poster and basically a private person but have tried counseling and cannot seem to come to terms with this issue. Appreciate a sanity check.