It's been a year since I moved my mother and brother in with me. My mother was diagnosed with Dementia and so I moved her (she's 68 ) and my older brother from South Carolina to help her while I work full time. Well, in July my brother found a job and moved out, I'm so glad for him. He agreed to help by watching mom one day a week so we cut costs for caregiver. He's been slacking in that. My two other siblings live in other states. My mom is so negative EVERY day. She has never been the most positive of people, so I stayed away a lot when I finished school and so did my siblings. Now it is just her and I EVERY DAY 7 days a week. I go to work now just to get away from her. It's like I can't do anything right. She has to always be right, so now I just let her talk, but she says the most disrespectful things. She's never satisfied with the care you give. I'm up early to make her lunch and dinner because I get home late and she needs to take her meds. She won't let the caregiver fix her food. She's had this caregiver since Nov. I have sleep apnea and mom doesn't sleep through the night. She comes in my room to wake me up. She has nightmare, hallucinations, it's beginning to wear me down. I tell my siblings that we need to talk about putting her in assisted living with memory care, but we don't have the financial means and my mother doesn't. They barely send me money to help with her. I'm just feel trapped. I've been at this a year and now I'm plus 35 lbs, pre-diabetic, high cholesterol because I'm stressed! I can't let my health continue to get worse while keeping her together and no one in my family seems to understand. What do I do? I'm 41 and feel like I'm 50!