Both of my parents age 98 have cancer. My dad has kidney cancer which is under control at the moment,while my mother has terminal ovarian cancer. We arranged for Hospice when my mom got out of the hospital. The nurse and Physical Therapist made some suggestions to make things easier and safer. All of the suggestions were done and now have been removed. My mother is very unstable on her feet,but refuses to use a walker. We put in a shower transfer chair which has now been removed. The only thing left is a raised toilet seat. They have refused to have the aids help. My mom insists my dad can help her shower. If she falls there is no way he will be able to help her. She will not let him leave the house. We made arrangement for an aid to be there. She nixed it. Yesterday they went so far as to not be at home when the aid was due. I get a phone call from a scheduler and of course being at work knew nothing of what went on. When confronted my father basically lied. My mother can be very controlling and my dad caves to all her demands. She will only let him leave if either me,my sister,or my wife is present. We all work so this has become a major issue. My dad has always been impatient and now being forced to stay home is angry and that anger is directed at me when I go to their home. They think nothing of canceling appointments last minute,but then demanding to be seen in days or just walking in without an appointment. My sister and I are at our wits end. We have talked with them and while we are present they agree,but the minute we are gone it is right back to their prior behavior. We don't know how much time my mother has left as she refused any tests. The doctors did say it is advanced. We just don't know what to do at this point.