Hi all, i’m New to the site and to caregiving.
My mother was recently hospitalized for weakness and malnutrition, she now has peripheral neuropathy. Up until this point she was living alone and doing well.
She should have gone to a SNF after being in the hospital but thought she could do fine at home. Fine at home is turning out to be her laying in bed saying ‘bring this bring that’ and wrinkling her nose at me when I tell her she has in home PT today. She doesn’t like the PT, she thinks the lady is insulting her home and the way she lives. She also thinks she is too pushy and “making me do too much.”
I hired a private paid caregiver for during the day and it is burning through the bank account rapidly. She makes me stay with her during the night, “because I’m afraid I’ll fall” but does really well with the walker she uses and doesn’t fall.
Today she talked about going to a SNF since it’s draining her to have daytime care (and draining me to be here nights when I work all day) but this evening she clammed up on it. She has until next weekend to still be Medicare eligible.
Then I told her the day time carer will have to work overtime a few days next week and she shrugged and said, “ok.” Then I talked to her about a rehab I found that some of her friends have stayed at and she got that far away look in her eye looking away from me.
I think she wants to be waited on more than getting well. She goes from doctor to doctor with few answers, but insists on making another appointment to see if today’s answer will be different than yesterday’s. My overnight stays will cease this weekend, mostly because I need more than three hours of sleep and so in some weird way her hand can be forced to see what she’s going to need to do to get better and be independent again. She will be safe during the night, believe me. Even she has a plan for that.
This is so awful.