My Mother has been living with my sister (POA). She recently moved into a hotel with her boyfriend. Took my Mom to another sister and told the family NOT to tell me. I have since found out. The other sister home situation is a 3 bedroom, 1 bath with 15 people living there. Some taking prescription drugs and some smoke weed. There are adults and children. I feel my Mom is in an unhealthy environment and I consider that to be Elder Abuse. Does her current environment fall under Elder Abuse? The sister who dropped her off had access to my mothers bank account and has been using my mothers money without my mothers knowledge leaving her at times with only $72 left. Now I'm not sure who has access, maybe both sisters now. The older sister (POA) told the younger sister that she couldn't get in contact with me so my mom could come and stay with me which is a lie because I was at her house 3 days before she moved. Older sister told me they where moving to a house all the while knowing she was moving into a hotel with her boyfriend and leaving my mom with the younger sister. What are my rights as a POA to get my mom to my home to live? My mom has early stages of dementia and thinks she is visiting my younger sister and is going to return to the apartment with the older sister. She has no clue my older sister is living in a hotel. What can I do? By the way, my younger sister does not talk to me and hasn't for 5 years now over past disputes with my mother's well being. She has talked to my other sister either until a couple of months ago. Now this. Neither sister still hasn't contacted me to let me know where my mom is. I have tried to contact my older sister (POA) but she isn't responding to any of my calls, voicemails or Face Book.
It's hard to say if your mother's current living condition (w. 15 other people in a small house) is abusive, but it easily could be. You could call your state's elder abuse hotline and/or office on aging to have the situation investigated.
Given the level of family dysfunction, lack of communication, and possible abuse toward your mother, the ultimate solution to protect your mother's well-being may be guardianship and conservatorship. Your state's office on aging should be able to help you decide if that will be necessary. Best wishes.
But one thing at a time.
Once you've decided where your mother is to go, given that the first POA sister has removed herself from the scene, I should have thought it would be comparatively straightforward to enlist the help of APS and/or the police, go and collect your mother, and install her in her new, safe environment. No? What would be the main obstacles to your doing that?
But do take advice, and don't attempt the intervention alone. You need to be absolutely certain not only that you are behaving strictly in accordance with all relevant laws and regulations, but also that there is no other information about your mother that has been kept back from you that may have a bearing on whether you are able to care for her. Tread carefully.