My mother lives in a nice income based senior living apartment. She was LUCKY to get this place (long waiting list). She lived with me and my husband rent free, meals provided for 2 1/2 years so she could save all her money after my step father died. When she moved in the apartment she had quite a savings account. Fast forward 2 years and all of a sudden she is running out of money halfway through the month. Reason is she spends a minimum of 75 dollars a week to smoke (yes that's the price of a carton of cigarettes in MI). She's not supposed to be smoking she has COPD among other health issues and she lives in a no smoking apartment (they all are in MI). She shouldn't be running out of money, the Social Sec she receives each month is probably more money than her and my stepdad had most months while he was alive and she should be able to live on it. She only qualifies for 15 dollars a month food stamps. She just repeatedly says it (the smoking ) is all I have to live for, she refuses to try and stop. She has 5 living daughters and 28 grandchildren so its sad to hear her say that's all she has to live for. It makes me so angry. I made up my mind I am no longer going to help her financially. I cant afford to give her the 250-300 dollars she is spending each month on cigarettes . Now I fear she's not paying bills so she can buy cigarettes. If you take her food or pay her bills that's in my eyes enabling her to spend her money on Cigarettes. I feel if she wants to continue to waste that money on cigarettes then she needs to figure out where her bill money and food is going to come from. Am I wrong for feeling like this ? The guilt is overwhelming but none of my sisters or me has the money to pay for her nasty habit. And like I said when you bring it up she just repeatedly says its all I have to live for, so I am not going to discuss it with her any more. How can I get rid of the guilt I feel and why on earth do I feel guilty that my mother refuses to do what she has to do take care of herself.