So my mom is an alcoholic and gets really mean when she's drunk (but never remembers). Her fantastic home health company, who has stuck out 7 months with her (longest of all other companies), has finally given their 30 day notice because of her evening drinking. Absolutely zero complaints about her when she's sober.
I have a new home health company starting soon for her despite knowing about her issues, but obviously I don't expect them to stay. She has exhausted all the home health companies in town. If this new company quits, she will have to go to a nursing home, and from past experiences in nursing homes I know she will throw a fit every single day to the point they will have to sedate her. I have tried EVERYTHING to keep her in her own home.
My current plan is using CBD oil for her pain because she told me she drinks due to her nerve pain and she doesn't want opioids. She also agreed to go to treatment for real this time and admitted she lied her entire way through rehab 10 years ago. I also want to find her something to do during the day so she doesn't drink. I obviously understand pain + boredom + being stranded at home would worsen any addiction. If this doesn't work, though, NH is my last resort. To compensate that inevitable reality, I have her on the wait-list at my Dad's NH so at least they would be together.
I just don't know anymore... when you run out of options you also run out of people who can/want to help you. Could I just run away? Yes, but I don't want to be on my death bed regretting leaving my poor mom in the dust. Alcoholism is a disease that she formed slowly over time, probably not realizing it. It's not like she decided to do meth one day knowing it was bad and getting hooked. She's just sick is all, and she sounds like she does want to be better so she can live longer. I told her she would not survive the next 5 years, and I think that scared her in a good way.
I know if she goes into a nursing home again, I can definitively say she put herself there. I have worked so, so, so hard to make life stable for my parents, but at the end of the day I still wasn't able to keep it that way.
Is there anyone out there like me who's loved ones have ruined all their options? Let me know. What did you do to cope? Did things work out?