Mom sometimes talks "at" me, without listening to me, as if I'm not in the room. Has anyone else experienced this?


I live with my mom. She sometimes goes on long rants or rambles about things that should actually be two-way conversations. This is frustrating and invalidating to me. I would like to have normal conversations with my mom, but sometimes it does not seem possible. She has a habit of droning and rambling, and it's a little disconcerting. I don't know if I'm overreacting, and if this is all in my head, or if her droning and having a monologue instead of a dialogue is not normal. It's like a pressured, forceful way of speaking - I have heard this is a symptom of some mental disorders. Has anyone had a similar experience?

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My mother does this too. I don't see her everyday, so she does seem to store up stuff to tell me...mostly gossip about her one friend (she has outlived every other friend she had!) and she doesn't really even like this woman, but she can drive and thus, gets mom a way to escape the house a couple times a week.

I think it's normal--esp in the elderly who are quite lonely, and don't get out much.

Mother doesn't squawk-- not at me, anyways. I know she does at brother with whom she lives. Drives him nuts, but he chose to have her live with him, so it's his problem. (He has banned most of the family from "helping" care for her, so it REALLY is his problem.)

Wear earplugs. More than 3 hours with mother and I am usually in tears or ready to hit something. Hoping I don't get this way......
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Reply to Midkid58

Yes, my mother does this. She starts squawking, because she has such limited contact with others in her housebound isolated life.

It irritates me. I wish she'd call my brothers and squawk at them.
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Reply to CTTN55

I've noticed something similar in my 83 year old mother. She seems cognitively intact otherwise, but often talks "at" me, not with me. It's like she's storing up things to talk about and it all just comes spilling out. Maybe in days past she would have shared her thoughts with friends? She has lost so many in recent years. I am torn between feeling compassion for her, feeling concerned for her and feeling irritated by her.
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Reply to AnybodyOutThere

Lemon, are you the primary caregiver for your mother? What are her impairments? (Vision problems, mobility issues, cancer, copd, mental illness, hearing impaired, dementia, etc.) How long have you lived with her? Has she always been like this, or is this new behavior?

A few more details will help us give relevant responses.
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