My once independent dad took himself to the ER 2 mos ago because he hated to worry us. He ended up with pneumonia and his COPD ended up taking a bad turn. It happened so fast. He would sound great for days and then bad for days and we talked multiple times per day because I couldn’t visit with the pandemic. I was calling nurses almost everyday to follow up and make sure certain things were happening. He ended up on oxygen, but then didn’t need it a few days later. Then he ended up on oxygen again, but this time 24/7 and couldn’t live without it. Fast forward to the last 2-3 days, which we didn’t realize it was his last few days or I would’ve been more forward with nurse. His CO 2 levels climbed real high because he hated the bipap mask, he felt suffocated with it. His CO 2 levels were usually 30’s, not bad and the last day they climbed to almost 80. He started pulling his oxygen out the last 2/3 days and when I’d call, the nurses couldn’t get him on the phone, they said he was so confused. His cell phone had broke so I had to call nurses those last couple days to get through to him. They kept telling me he was too confused to get on the phone. If I could’ve just visited, maybe I could’ve got through to him to keep his oxygen in. His oxygen ended up going to the 70’s so they transported him to hospital from health care rehab. That last night I talked to the nurse at 8pm and told her my concerns with him pulling his oxygen out and she said he was on an alarm. Fast forward to 11:30 that same night, I get call from doc that he’s unconscious and pulled oxygen out and was in the 50’s now. They intubated him, get him stable again and he codes twice. I don’t know if there would’ve been brain damage, but I’m beating myself up that I couldn’t get through to him the last 2 days to keep his oxygen in. They said he would go from lethargic to ripping everything out and they didn’t think it was registering with him that he wouldn’t be able to breathe without the oxygen. My heart is just broken that he spent those last moments alone, unable to breathe probably and I could’ve been sitting there with him, instructing him to put it back in and to wear the bipap mask to bring down his high CO 2 levels that was causing the confusion.
I’m completely crazy and ready to call the doc for a more clear explanation, but he’s going to think I’m nuts. I just feel my dad really had more time. I don’t get it.