My parents have been at a lovely AL for over a year. Dad has COPD and heart issues. Mom has Alzheimer’s. They were in a studio apartment but mom was getting much worse. Neither were sleeping and mom’s mental status upsets dad. He ends up yelling.
We (there are 6 children) moved mom to the memory unit for a one month trial. Problem is that my dad now wants to spend waking hours with her. She refuses all care and activities when he is around. He also continues the yelling.
My dad does not participate in any activities or attempt to become friends with other residents. He complains about everything. Also his short term memory is getting bad.
I have tried to reason with him to not spend so much time, make shorter visits. He does not want to do that.
Their resources are limited and this facility does not take Medicaid. Our last resort is to move them back to their house and wait for a major catastrophe.
Has as anyone had a similar issue. My dad has burned out all of his kids with his non-compliance and attitude.