Dad & Mom are both 87. Mom has dementia and it is getting progressively worse. It is too much for my dad. He cooks for her and gives her meds. He is at a loss for what to do. I work full time. And even if I could spend 24/7 taking care of my mom, I know I couldn't do it. She is very needy. I was with her for 3 straight days to give my dad a break and I am so totally exhausted. My question is...how do I separate a couple who has been together for 64 years. I do not have health care POA or a durable POA yet. Should I get those tools and use that to separate them?