It’s hard to summarize this in a succinct way.
My father-in-law has been sick since he was 27, he’s now about to be 53. His overall health waxes and wanes.
My husband and I have only been married 4 months, but we’ve been together for 10 years and lived together for 6 years.
My father-in-law was remarried 10 years ago, right around when my husband and I started dating. His stepmom was very involved in our lives. Two months ago we found out she was having a long term affair and now his father-in-law and stepmom are divorcing. She moved out of their house more than a month ago.
My husband and I currently rent a terrible, old, falling apart house. We were beginning to look into buying a home, but live in Houston and the housing market is ridiculous here. Both my parents and his father offered to pitch in since we are both doctors in training and work long hours for not much money. But in general we could afford to rent for the foreseeable future.
Suddenly his dad has offered for us to move into his home, take over the master bedroom, and he will move into his guest house.
I’m afraid I will never feel comfortable or at home there. The whole house reeks of his stepmom, and even if we changed some things I would feel like we displaced his father. We want to try to start our family soon, and obviously want to have my father-in-law close and involved with any grand babies. But the idea of living with him while trying to get pregnant is awkward.
Did I mention that my parents live about a mile away from his father in law? They did this on purpose. My husband doesn’t get along with my mother, and my mother stresses me out a lot.
Not to mention, my sister-in-law has always been very very very protective of her father. Never liked her stepmom. I always figured she would reassert herself as matriarch as soon as the divorce was finalized. But if we live in the house with him, then what?
Thanks for understanding.