Hi all, I'm new here, and new to all of this. My mother is 69 years old and this last year has been a huge eye opener to her need for so much more than I can provide.
Background. I am an only child to her, my father and her divorced in 1975 and she never remarried. I have taken care of her emotionally since I was 4 years old, financially off and on all my life, and now that she is physically suffering... well... it's getting out of control.
She has always had issues with weight and some mental issues, depression, insomnia - found she was diagnosed Bipolar in the early 80's but never really treated and still not if this is true. She had stayed relatively physically healthy but always had a crazy schedule, a messy home, financial issues. Now diagnosed with COPD learning how to manage medication, mobility issues at 330 lbs, oxygen... we are way over our heads.
She was admitted to the hospital 6 months ago and then went to Rehab and ended up there for 2 months as they didn't feel it was safe for her to go home to her apartment ( not handicap accessible, stairs, etc.) With the 24/7 care and schedule there my mom looked better than she has in years!!!! Since she's on Medicare/Medicaid when a bed opened she had to move and they moved her to a Long-term area of the hospital and oh my God - it was horrible for her! Within a week and with the support of her Therapist and Primary Dr to release her to go home as we all felt it was better than staying there.
Well.... here we are, 3 months later and she's worse off than ever. We are looking to get in home help that is consistent - I absolutely can not do any more than I am. We have a medicaid waiver interview this week and I hope we can get help to keep her home.
I know she would be physically healthier with 24/7 care - but she is 69!
Can anyone else relate? Do you have a younger Parent with all of these needs??? I am lost... but glad I found all of you.