My father died in November. He was her carer. Since then I have spent every night and a good deal of day at her home. My husband stays at our home at night as she won't let our dogs stay at her house, as they would 'traumatise her 3 cats' . Recently we've been trying to spend a few hours in the evening at our home. There has always been a problem when I get back.
Last night I got back to
find her wandering around looking for my father and she had been outside in cold. She is very unsteady and frail and could have fallen.
Her GP says that she is 100% mentally 'with it' and she thinks she is attention seeking.
She refuses to have carers to help out as she thinks she can look after herself.
When I take her at her word and try to separate myself from her a bit she always makes me feel guilty for leaving her by little comments such as ' Its not the same watching TV on your own'.
My sister has come and stayed for four days since Dads death and that is the only break my husband and I have had.
I run a small Internet business but this has had to be put on hold as I don't have time to apply myself to it.
I have always had a good relationship with her. My Mother however has always been very self centred and selfish. Along with this she is very anti social and has only been out of house in the last 20 years for medically related appointments. Everyone has to come to see her. When they do she always moans and complains before they come.
She even makes her grandchildren feel unwelcome at times.
Can anyone suggest how I can handle this situation please.