My 83 yr old mother has a compression fracture in her spine which has resulted in a pinched nerve and great pain. Her doctor told her she should have surgery, but she doesn't want it. He gave her a prescription for pain medicine that specifically targets nerve pain. She refuses to get the prescription filled. She is seeing a chiropractor and is feeling somewhat better but won't walk like he has suggested. Whenever I talk to her, all she does is complain about how much she hurts.
I was unwilling to visit her last week because of her reluctance to call friends or a transportation service to get her to appointments, but did take her to her eye doctor appointment yesterday. On the way to the appointment, my mom told me that she had driven (stick shift vehicle) to the "city" 9 miles away on Saturday so that she could go to the bank, get some groceries and use a coupon at the gas station that was due to expire. All of this was in spite of the fact that she was crying most of the time due to the extreme pain she was suffering.
I asked why she would drive 9 miles when she could have banked at the credit union and gotten groceries at the convenience store--both which are just a few blocks away from where she lives. Her explanation was that she didn't have enough money in her credit union account, the groceries would have cost more at the convenience store, and she HAD TO USE the coupon for gas as it was due to expire the next day.
I asked her why she hadn't just written a check from her bank account and then cashed it at the credit union? My mother told me that they wouldn't do that.
Then I asked how much gas she put in her car as I knew it shouldn't have been much since it hasn't been driven much in the past 3 weeks, due to her injury/pain. She told me, "About 5 gallons."
I told her that I couldn't undertand her logic. She drove about 20 miles round trip just to save $1.25 at the gas station and to get cash at the bank. Plus, she was in so much pain that she was crying????????
All she would say is that she thought it was logical.
I understand that she is lonely. However, she refuses to call anyone to help her or even to talk on the phone. Her going to the store, etc., got her some sympathy and a chance to talk to someone and do something different.