My mother in law has been showing more and more rapid signs of memory loss to the point where she's forgotten that her son married me (and my name), she doesn't recognize her grandchildren, and she has lost a lot of weight (she has type 2 diabetes and I think she hasn't been eating/remembering to eat/taking her medication). We tried to get her a doctor appointment because she kept putting it off, but she freaked out after going because she is afraid we'll "commit" her. So in response, she moved away to Oregon, and is renting a house from her brother (who lives in CA). We want to know what we can do, but have been advised by the senior counsel that unless she has a major health event and lands in the hospital, we can't do anything. We are young (27/28) and she's only in her mid 60's, and we have very little money and two very young children (under 5 years of age). Our ability to caregive is very limited and we don't even have a large enough living space (we're in a 1 bedroom apartment). I would love any suggestions for getting help. We love her and want her to be safe, but we have so many life stressors and obligations that we need to take care of that it's practically impossible to know what to do next.