I try to visit my mom (who lives in a memory care facility) at least twice a week, taking her to church (which I would not do otherwise), taking her to dinner or bringing her to my house where she can see her dog (whom I have had to adopt). I work full time at a demanding job, and this takes a significant chunk of my remaining free time. I do this so that she will have at least some modicum of “a life” - she refuses to engage in activities where she lives, despite their efforts to find things she would like. It’s basically “my way or the highway,” which is how she’s always been, even though it doesn’t serve her well. She clearly prefers to go with me, rather than stay in the facility...but she does not seem to enjoy any of it. Because of the aphasia, we literally do not talk. At this point, she can’t really even answer yes/no questions, let alone open-ended questions about her day. She also doesn’t seem to be interested in any information I have to share about my day, my family, current events, etc. And these visits require a LOT of time/effort on my part. For example, I have to leave work an hour early in order to bring her to my house for dinner - and her church is 45 minutes from where she lives, necessitating that I give up a good 4+ hours of my free Sunday in order to get her there, participate in the service, grab lunch afterwards and get her back. I am so tired, and I would really like more time with just my husband and/or our kids. I don’t think we’ve had a major holiday without my mom in at least 12 years, and she’s joined us for other major events (eg., college graduations) despite the need to make special arrangements for transportation, etc. She has always acted as if this were the very least we could do for her, rather than acknowledging and appreciating the effort. And, of course, there is all the administrative and care coordination work that goes on in addition to the visits. How often should I visit? Are there any suggestions as to how to cope with the apathy and disinterest? Thanks!