Mom's lived with us a year now, since dad died. She's 88 and has a myriad of health issues but her main problem is kidney failure. Her numbers float from 10-20% function. She recently declined dialysis as both her doctors said they would not recommend it for her and sent her home from the hospital with a palliative care team, who comes out twice weekly. So far, she'd been okay with everything, but suddenly today, when I decided she was too weak to attend church, she began 'exercising her legs' crazily and trying to 'prove' her strength by furniture-walking around the house and nearly falling. Mom's a big lady and if she falls or even stumbles, it's all hubby and I can do to get her back on her feet. I believe she could still get out a bit with a wheelchair but she said she 'didn't want to give up' by riding in a chair.
I don't want to have to tell her every day that she's not getting better and in fact is getting worse. Any advice on what to say or do?? She sees her doc tomorrow...Liz.