Background is husband and myself became empty nesters , had a lovely home and mom who was recently widowed had an even bigger home. Mom's home has an in law suite that she and my dad added for her mom. Mom asked us to move in because she was lonely. We did. We wish we did not. We thought it was the right thing to do at the time because my parents had been so wonderful to us. My mom used to be my BFF. Vascular dementia has come in addition to her long term CHF. Fast forward to now , 2 years have passed. Mom goes to adult day care 4-5 times a week. I sometimes have an evening aide from dismissal time at the center to about 6 pm.
Well my sis in law was nice enough to stay with her this past week while we had a nice getaway in Florida with our grown children and their spouses. Mom drove my SIL nuts but SIL is truly a saint. Like she puts it , “I know you’re coming back and I’ll get to leave, but you don’t." SIL cancelled all her plans today so she can finally get some sleep! Anyway, I wake up this am and don’t feel happy at all to see mom. My husband is amazing I’m sure he feels the same way but I just can’t say it for fear of the answer. I feel awful for thinking “ just go away.” So on the heels of that I ask , is it time to call in more care coverage ? I pay privately with mom's money. I was trying to conserve her money for when it gets real bad. She also just started on Seroquel and she’s been in mertazopine for 2 years. Is the Seroquel having the opposite effect? She’s up all night tooling around, opening and closing drawers. Calling me from a phone or walking out into the foyer and calling my name or someone else’s to see what they’re doing at 5 am.