My mom finally passed away in December from Alzheimer's. She was in a residential care facility because I was convinced I could not care for her. She was there 3 months before she died. She did need a hoyer lift, to be fed and changed and lost her ability to walk. I keep thinking if I had brought her to my home, she may not have went downhill so quickly. I know she did not want to be there. I visited her 2-3 times a week and got to know the staff quite well. She never became beligerant or angry. I was afraid she might and did not want to expose my children to that. There was no other family here to help with her care. My husband was against her living with us because he knew this could go on a long time. But it didn't and looking back, I think we both reacted out of fear instead of what may have been best for her. How do I deal with the guilt?