My mother has been in ICU, sedated. So much has happened in 2 weeks. so many questions. So many decisions. It has felt very difficult to get guidance and it is not clear who to get it from. Is there a guidebook on this topic? For example the caseworker approached the other members of the family to discuss next steps, but it was unclear (to them) what the conversation was about. the doctors keep asking about the next treatment and always have a sanguine attitude, but it is not clear they are completely candid. It seems to me that the hospital should hand you a guidebook when a loved one enters ICU about what needs doing, rather than depending on telling you/asking you questions when you come to visit.