If you were forced to choose. What would you do?

I did have to make that choice. Not so much from the actual caregiving but from the disrespect of my siblings and their trying to take over our home. Very easy decision; husband above anything else. He is a keeper and has always been my best friend.

My thought is my parents have a wonderful 70 years marriage, why can't I also have the same. If the caregiving is getting in the way, time for Mom and Dad to have a new adventure at a retirement village.

Thank you for commenting guys. Just making coversation!

Right on Captain. I prefer my dogs to most people!

wife and oldest son discarded me after 18 yrs, youngest son after 25 years. my motorcycle has been with me for 30. I can only conclude that ike loves me.
people love you as long as it suits their interests.

might be a good time to review whether the spouse was a worthwhile investment of your life and could be counted on in your time of need. when I sat in the bedroom floor massaging my own aching knees during a particularily hellish hepc treatment and wifey sat on the bed glaring daggers thru me , I came to the realization that this marriage wasn't built on much of a foundation.

If I had still been married when I came here and still in love, I would have chosen my spouse over my parent. No contest. Spouse, children, and self are number 1. Parents number 2 even in the Bible.