If I put my Dad in a home for dementia, can I take him back out if I want to?

Another thing to think about is your own health. If one's parents are in their 80's or older, chances are the grown child his/herself will be a senior citizen or close to it themselves.

What would be your Plan B if something happens to you, be it a serious illness or an injury. This spring I broke my shoulder and I could hardly dress myself and was going to rehab x3 a week for months on end. I couldn't drive for 6 months as it was too painful to shift the gear from park into drive, etc. My parents who are in their 90's still lived at home on their own, and they were basket-cases because I couldn't drive them to doctor appointments or to the store. Thank goodness we could get home delivery of groceries but my parents didn't like the delivery charges. Plus they would refuse someone from the outside to help them.

I can relate to crying fit..just pops up..emotional stress..chores are never ending

I hope everyone understands that caring for your parents is not something you have to do alone. If you can afford it you can hire CNA's and other home healthcare on your own. If you can't afford it (my situation) there are programs that can help pay for this extra help. Varies by state, but I suspect most states and aging agencies have something that can help. Call your local area afency on aging!

I understand that there are many services for veterans and their widows (widowers). My daughter researched this and suggested that we get a patient advocate from the VA to find out what we can get, including some home health care, handicapped ramps, handicapped shower & toilets etc.