She tells my brother all the time that I hate her. I have recently, very, lost my husband and my mother tells me it's time I got over it. It's been 3 weeks and I am no way near over it. I have been putting off visiting her because I don't want to listen to her . She hurts me so much. She also is always saying I put her in that awful place, which was the assisted living place she was in, decision. I don't want to visit her but feel guilt when I don't . What should I do. I need no more hurt right now in my life.