I moved out at 15. Met my husband (who is the same age) had our kids at 20 been on my own 30 years. Now I have grandchildren. I never got along with my parents. Mom and dad were 11 years a part. Mom died at 64 Dad was left alone. 6 months after her death he asked to come live with me. I said yes of course knowing he has cancer and kidney disease. It’s been 2 years and I can’t do it anymore. I tried talking with about moving to an adult senior building which has 24 hour care but he still can do things on his own. He won’t go he just says let me die.

I won’t be here much longer. I don’t know what to do. Kids won’t come over cause of him so I don’t see much of my grandchildren. My husband tries to hide his anger because we can’t be close I just need information on how to talk him into moving.

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I agree. You need to be direct. Like said, find a place. Once found sit down with him, look him in the eye and tell him it is no longer working. You need your life and family back. You have found him a place to live he can afford and he is moving such such a date. No argument.
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No need to talk him into moving. Find a place and inform him that on xx day he is moving.

Just let me die comment is manipulation and has worked really well for him, so be prepared for this to escalate when you inform him.

I would tell him like the day before the move so you don't have to put up with it very long.

That he is obviously behaving unacceptably is costing you important relationships, not his choice to go or stay. He made his choice with his behavior.

No guilt, you gave him every chance to live in harmony in your home, he didn't want to.

Don't argue, don't explain just move him.
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