I am 80 years old and in very good health. I help lift him from bed to chair and vice versa. I help shower him, shave him, cut his hair and nails, etc. He wears depends all the time and I have to help him stand so I can remove the depends and put on clean ones. He is so very heavy. He is a very loving man and really appreciates all I do. I alone, care for him. I would love to hire someone just to come in about 10 AM to do all this. (Bed sheets need changing almost every day, he wets through) This morning at 3 AM he called me to help change him and the sheets. ...So if I hired someone to come at AM each day I wouldn't need her (or him) because I already attended to all his needs. This happens often.
What do I do? It is really getting tiresome. I only leave the house to shop and only for an hour or so. He cannot walk to go the bathroom by himself and many times when I came home he had already soiled himself. He feels terrible. I do love him. Married over 60 years now but I'm beginning to think he needs to be in a facility and this is breaking my heart. His doctor agrees and tells me not to feel guilty. But I do. I would be very lonely without him but I know I cannot keep doing this. I may have a few good years left and I would like to venture out on a trip or have some friends. I am confused. Any suggestions out there?