My 92 year old mother is in assisted living. She has congestive heart failure and is on oxygen 24/7. She needs a walker for mobility and can walk only extremely short distances because she says she is worn out. She has become more and more reluctant to leave her apartment for meals and activities. She prefers to live on sweets an orders them in for herself. I try to get her out for lunch or other outings, but it is becoming more and more difficult. Being a small person, I have a very difficult time getting her into my car, buckled up in a seat belt, and oxygen and purses arranged. She complains of discomfort when she is trying to get into the car. Her shoulders are so arthritic that she needs very careful assistance in putting her coat on. When she goes to a restaurant, she must go to the bathroom 2 to 3 times during the meal. I need to go with her to the bathroom, over her objection, because she always goes in the wrong direction. She has also had instances in which she has locked herself in bathroom stalls. Fortunately, I have been able to work the locks for her so far. People are not always very nice about making room for her to get by. I suggested that she have a scooter, but she objects. I know that outside stimulation is good for her. However, I am beginning to think it is becoming too difficult for her. I took her out to a nice place for brunch today and paid valets triple what I would normally because of all they went through to get her walker, oxygen, gear and body into the car comfortably. I am beginning to think they will not want us to return.