I am curious as to how others "knew" it was time to move their loved one into assisted living. It seems selfish or self-centered of me to consider moving my husband just because I am exhausted and burned out and occasionally find myself crying uncontrollably for no apparent reason. He started adult daycare 2 months ago and I feel so much happier and relieved during the day. However he is up most of the night pacing and changing clothes. When he does fall asleep he pushes me out of the bed. If I go in the spare room he follows me and the pushing starts again. He does not realize what he is doing. Nevertheless I am sleep deprived. He is tolerating daycare well. That is a miracle, as he didn't want to go and even ran away from home a few times to make me understand he wouldn't go. I had to call the sheriff dept to find him one freezing cold evening. We have special locks on the doors so he can't get out of the house without help but we were outside together when he sneaked away. He isn't violent or mean but gets agitated when he wants to do something and I won't let him. Sometimes he has hallucinations and has cursed at "me" while having a conversation with himself. He can no longer read and understand. He cannot write or sign his name. He has aphasia from left temporal lobe damage so he cannot coherently participate in a conversation or follow directions. Our daughter, our couselor, and our neighbors think it is time for me to at least consider placement for him. His symptoms started in 1999 but we didn't get his current diagnosis until a couple of years ago. It has been a long haul with no end in sight. I love him; I want him to be safe; I want him to be normal again; I want his life to be positive and full of daily joy. I don't want to die from the stress of everything.