My Mother calls from the Nursing Home intermittently saying no one is paying attention to her. They don't care. Today she doesn't feel good and has laryngitis and chest congestion. The Nurse this morning said she would call the doctor she has a temperature. So she calls me saying no one is helping her - they don't care - and then apologizing for bothering me. She hung up on then called back to ask me not to call anyone - make no trouble - she has to live there but wishes she could die. She says this a lot but then by this afternoon she'll call me laughing about something and be completely different with her 'game' face on. What does anyone do with this? She has a psychiatrist visit every week - a caregiver she says she doesn't want help from - and then complains they don't do anything to help her but she says no one makes her bed right and she can dress herself. This facility is tops and I know she gets the best care she can. She's there from a fall and her dementia - the doctor said we can no longer care for her safely at home no matter how many bars and helps we provide. She is 85 has dementia going through stages for the past 3 years and chronic pain from a shoulder repair and post-herpetic shingles pain and anxiety - all being treated properly with the appropriate medications. I feel I can't feed into it and she needs to 'grow up' and adjust - yet - I don't want to miss something I should be doing as I have no experience with nursing homes.