My parents live in a two story duplex. The bedrooms are upstairs. My mom has dementia and it is getting worse. She burns things. Doesn't engage and my dad thinks he can make her remember. Neither should be using the stairs. But he refuses to do anything about it instead wants me to move home 18 hours away from my own grown children and take over so he can do as he always has sleep all day watch tv all night. No one wants to deal with him. He has been a stubborn selfish man my mothers entire life. I am the only daughter with brothers that none of us want to have to live with him but we love and worry about our beautiful mother that we know he is probably mean as hell to. Need a plan, advice, help.