I'm a loving sis trying to find my place in my older sister's decline. (She is 65, I am 63 and we live within a few miles.). My concerns are when interacting with her, as her vocabulary and cognitive functions decline ... how much should I help her? Her husband is good with her, but he's got a ton of work/aging parents/church leadership commitments and can't be there (physically and mentally) all the time. Anyway we've always had a great relationship and I want to be there for her without her feeling I'm trying to take over. I tried to help clean out her overflowing pantry (7 boxes Cheese Nips, 8 boxes Goldfish, tons and tons of bags of chips stacked everywhere) but she got upset, thought I was saying she couldn't do it. (She couldn't) Another big deal to me is when she's talking, and loses a word/place name/ etc ... and the stalls in the conversation while seeking it, ... should I wait, or should I fill it in? She actually never comes up with it anymore, and will just laugh. Again, I don't want to jump in if in any way it marginalizes her.. just don't know. When I do interject I try to do it very low-key and quiet, usually with a smile. Any advice appreciated!!!