I had five or six months of constant stress with moms problems. Then she died. And I was stressed about setting up a Shiva, and all the stuff I had to do as executor of her estate. Complicated by my impossible brother and having to get stuff in his name or his special needs trust name. Still working on moms stuff four and a half months later when my husband can't sleep even sitting up. Take him to emergency room. He is in hospital three days. Then transferred to hospital in another city. For open heart surgery. Six hours after surgery he has stroke. I stayed with him in hospital for two weeks before he was released to rehab. Got rides to rehab every other day. Never knowing who was going to be able to take me till day before. Steve had constant problems in rehab. This sounds exhausting just writing it. Any suggestions on how to recover? Things are getting better now. But all that went before is still affecting me.