Mom has been living in an apartment near me. We take her everywhere she needs to go. Including weekly senior get together. Now, thankfully Is moving into a senior apartment that is awesome. There is transit in place there. She gets mopey and sad when I tell her I would like her to learn to use the transit to her senior outing sometimes. This causes me to feel like a selfish person..like I'm deserting her. I tell her my husband and I have a difficult time keeping up with our home. I told her others will go on the transit with her..so she isn't fearful. She says it will cost her..a few bucks actually..and she is able to afford it. Society sides with her...she likes to be the sweet innocent victim..me the meanie. Brother lives a bit far away...and never visits...so it's me..now she is going to be more independant ..can do her own laundry..I've done it for a year now..this will be very good for her. I insist she carry her own money and pay for her purchases..with me nearby...I want her..for both if our sakes..to be confident and as independant as possible....I guess I feel like a meanie at times..my heart hurts. I just want her to live as full a life as she can..I'm on stand by...why do I feel like so bad when I'm being kindly assertive with her..