Mom is 99, living in independent living (but needs to be in assisted living - won't go!) Two years ago she stopped showering and started taking sink baths. Now I notice no wash cloths or towels used, the soap is not shrinking. She is not washing at all. We have forced her to let us wash her feet once in a while because they were so horrid that it was embarrassing to take her to the podiatrist to cut her 1 inch toenails. She has dementia, won't let any stranger into her apartment and resents the housekeeper who cleans once a month. She is always accusing her of stealing, which she isn't. How in the world can we get her to take a shower? She won't let us, she won't let my niece who is experienced in taking care of seniors.