How does one deal with constant negativity in trying to help mother?
My parents live with me. Both are in their 90s and ill. Mother is in constant pain and has recently been put in at-home hospice care. I have caregivers come to the house seven days a week. I feel terrible for my parents and try to do everything I can to make them comfortable, but it is hard for me to hear constant negativity first thing in the morning when I come to attend to them before the caregiver comes. There is always a problem that my mother tells me about. When I try to get a handle on what she is saying by asking her questions, she becomes angry and nothing is accomplished. Whatever I do is never right. The food I make "tastes like shoe leather" which my mother gleefully tells anyone who comes to visit. I know I should not engage with her because it makes me feel miserable for the rest of the day. I do not want to be depressed every day because it is not good for my health. What can I do to not fall victim to the constant negativity and complaints? I really would like to feel happy once in a while.