Mom has a pretty good mind although she is forgetful. She reads and writes, Makes up her bed and washes her clothes. She has congestive heart failure and diabetes but manages well. She has arthritis and uses a cane and sometimes a walker. She was a teacher for 40 years and was very independent. My dad died 23 years ago after the flood. Their house was flooded during that time but it really hasn’t been right since. It’s falling apart and she can not afford to have it repaired. Fast forward...my wayward 60+ year old brother went to jail and lost his job. Then he moved in. My dad would have never allowed that. He doesn't work. He asks mom for hundreds of dollars at a time claiming he has to pay child support. Yes he had a 6 year old and grandchildren even older. He only uses the money to buy drugs. He never helps around the house and I even had to pay to get the yards done every month. He’s my mom’s first born and she thinks he can do no wrong. She just says that he’s less fortunate than my younger brother and me. My brother and I argue all the time. Sometimes it is actually scary. I had to call he police a few times. I got tired of living in a stressful situation after 24 years. So, 3 years ago I told my mom I was moving out. She had a fit. Crying and asking what was she suppose to do. I told her that she seemed to be perfectly happy with her 1st born and that they could stay there together. Of course, she wanted me to stay but that was a definite NO! I found a place. She became very depressed. Before I left she told me that she’d go with me. I told her ok but that my brother could not come. Now mom has become depressed because she cannot control what happens in my house. She has a fixation on moving around the furniture in her room. She says her room is too small but she keeps asking for more furniture. I can’t seem to get her to understand that she already has to much in her room. I’ve had people to move that furniture at least 10 times in 2 months. She is never satisfied. Then she gets mad with and says that I’m mistreating her. Now everyday she’s crying and say she wants to leave because I won't let her move the furniture the way she wants too. Lord knows we’ve moved it very which way but out. So today she says she wants new furniture. Really? That furniture is only 3 years old. Now she sits up and draws plans on how she wants the new furniture arranged. Trust me the furniture that’s in here now is already arranged like that. Buying new furniture is not going to solve this problem. I know it’s all in her mind. But every day I have to hear about moving furniture and buying furniture. It’s driving me nuts and now I’m depressed. What do I do? I love my mom and will do just about anything for her but some of her request are just UNREAL.