We invited Mom to move in with us in May. At first she kept a low profile, surveying the way we did things. We made a few rules, just to make sure she would respect our wishes. She didn't. She went behind our backs and did things we told her she was not to do. When confronted, she was defensive and lied to us. She thinks she's here to "help" us. She tells me when the mail comes and insists that she or I get it immediately. She tells me when the toilet paper is low, if the kleenex is getting low, that she only has 2 days of cereal left. She announces that my husband is leaving or coming in or sleeping or watching TV. She thinks I work too hard, don't sleep enough, don't eat when I should. She comes into the bathroom to tell me my phone rang. She "nags" me (she calls it helping me) about everything, over and over, the same things. When she's not telling me what to do or reminding me of something she's already told me 5 times, she's complain about something. When I tell her it doesn't help to remind me of what to do, she gets down right snotty, like a spoiled child. She looks for the worst case scenario so she is always stirred up about something. She has been taking tranquilizers for years but they don't help. I have no peace anymore. I have worked for years to make us a happy, tranquil home and maintaining that is becoming harder and harder. I feel like her negativity is wearing me down. So far nothing I say seems to make any difference. There has got to be something I can do to regain some joy again. Help!