I moved my aunt to South Carolina 3 years ago, after her husband passed away and she could no longer, stay on her own.
She has been in assisted living facilities, but her finances are running out and her health is deteriorating. I’ve been advised that she gets too much social security to be able to get Medicaid in South Carolina.
I have asked other family members for help many times and they say they will try but procrastinate and don’t find anything in their area. Her IRA is being cashed out at the beginning of the year and she will have enough for a month or 2 left to pay for the assisted living.
I had not seen this aunt for 35 years before I had gotten a call that her husband passed away.
I am at a loss of how to help her any more. I can not take care of her. I am her power of attorney in healthcare and finance, but I don’t know where to turn any longer. We filled out paperwork for veterans assistance in August but still don’t know if she qualifies. She gets social security and some IRA. But her assisted living is high and they just raised another $200 a month starting January, plus with the extra care she needs it’s about $4000 a month.
All her siblings have passed or are to old to take care of her and honestly I’m not sure how I end up with the job, I just knew I could not leave her to die alone in her house which since she was not on the mortgage and would have cost her to much to sell we let it go into bankruptcy. Now with her money running out I am sick to my stomach and can’t sleep nights.
I can not continue to keep doing this. This has been the last 6 years of my life. She can be mean and very ungrateful at times. I feel sorry for her and know some day I may be in this same situation but I can no longer do this.
I go see her once a week and I don’t want to live with this scenario any more. My mom, her sister, passed 5 years ago and my dad was very upset when he found I had moved her here. He advised she put herself where she is with no one wanting to help and he is aging also and he will be needing me soon. How do I turn her over to someone else’s care?
Please give direction.