I recently contacted an attorney who specializes in elder care to revise my will after 5 years (last revision was when my second husband died 5 years ago). My biggest concern is that the 5 year old will had named my son and daughter by my first husband as co-POAs, having to agree on all expenses, but my RN daughter as POA for health care for obvious reasons. My first and divorced husband, the father of my children, is now in nursing home with Lewy Body dementia without having named anyone as POA for anything, and our children are constantly fighting over expenses. The elder care attorney said that I should change the financial POA to allow them to both make decisions but independently without requiring permission from the other. Does this sound reasonable? I have expressed to both of them my desire to go to a specific continuing care place (not the one where my first husband is) although if he is still alive when I need placement that would be lots easier for my daughter. It bothers me that my single childless daughter says she will leave everything to an animal rescue charity and not to her brother or nieces, but I want to leave everything equally to the two of them even so. My granddaughters are 21 and 13 1/2. Maybe when the younger one turns 18 I will leave some money to the two of them (equally). I am 81 so I may not live that long. Does this sound like a plan?