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My brother has power of attorney for my mother who has dementia. He takes care of her at home but refuses to share any information about her care. I do not know how he is paying for her care and maintaining her house since he does not work. He refuses to show me a copy of her will where he is named power of attorney. All he says is everything is being taken care of. In addition he is dating a woman with 4 children who is preparing to also move in the house and move our mother to the finished basement. This seems like elder abuse and I do not know where to turn as I cannot afford to hire an attorney to assist me. I appreciate any suggestions that are in the forum.

Red flags flying all over this situation.

You need to go to the county clerk and see if your mom filed a copy of her will, it's not required and most people don't but you could be lucky.

He is obviously living off moms money but the biggest concern is moving 5 people into her home and putting her in the basement, sounds like a horror film story line.

You need to consult with an attorney, should be a free consultation, even consult with multiple ones to find out what is available to do.

Protect your mom, you know something is not right, listen to your gut and play hard ball.

You got this, you can do it. Get on the phone and start scheduling appointments for those free consultations. If they say not free, call someone else. Have all of your questions written down along with anything that is going on with her care that concerns you. Ask them who can help you help your mom. Resources are abundant, it's just finding the right ones that is challenging.

Hugs! Now go get 'em!
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An attorney may be able to demand an accounting of how brother is spending Moms money. He may be able to revolk the POA but can't assign you. Only Mom can. Guardianship is expensive.

As said, a Will cannot assign someone POA but can assign an Executor.
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He really doesn't have to tell you about her finances. Don't like the idea of him pushing Mom out of her own house though. Call APS and see if they can put you in touch with Legal Aid.
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No one is named POA in a will.

the provisions of a will only "kick in" when the person dies,
and, further...if there is a POA...it expires the minute the person dies.

get a lawyer. This sounds like elder abuse. Get a lawyer
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Is there an Office of the Aging agency near you? (Or similar) They may be able to help you.
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