I take care of my 75 year old mother. I have it easy in some ways. She can still get around the house pretty good and she can make a sandwich, soup, and eggs although she cooks on very high heat. She can bathe herself but she will go weeks without a shower. She stays in her bedroom most of the time. And sometimes she thinks someone is knocking on her bedroom door. Which I tell her nobody is in the house. She is at times talking to someone when there is no one in the room with her.
I moved in with her because the house became full of junk, things she bought and never used and the kitchen sinks were full of dirty dishes to the point she was putting more dirty dishes in the basement sink. You get the picture.
However, she has racked up thousands of dollars in credit cards debt and took out a personal loan on her truck. She is on a fixed income! When I moved in it was brought to my attention that she wasn't paying the house taxes and a few other house bills. As far as the credit cards and loan I just found out a few weeks ago. My mother lies about anything and everything. We have a rocky relationship at best! Now, she wants to get a second loan on her truck to pay for my low life druggie brother's truck to be fixed, who steals from her and me. He is no longer allowed in the house! She has POA's health/finance.
However, she has fired her last 3 doctors. For what...I don't know. She never tells me anything and if she does it is lies. When I tell her she should have a doctor, she tells me she doesn't need one.
I refuse to pay on her credit cards, I am in contact with them trying to workout that mess. I want to take over her finances before she does more damage.
I don't know what to do! I want to save my father's house. He passed away in 2014😵
P.S I feel like a idiot! She has a bad heart, so I am hoping her heart gives out before the dementia gets worst after reading people's stories.