My dad has been hospitalized 2x since December. His girlfriend does not like me so I can get no information on his health unless she contacts my sister or my uncle. We are his children and also his brother and its not right what she is doing. If my dad was aware that this was happening he would not approve. I do not think he realized she would do this when he appointed her.
I am wondering if I should hire an attorney and remove her.
You need to see a lawyer now to stop her ability to get to Dads accts. She has abused her POA responsibilities. This woman could take everything and leave. With Dad going into LTC, she gets nothing because they were not married. His SS and pension will be used for his care if Medicaid is needed. Her spending his money could effect him even receiving medicaid.
I suggest you consider guardianship. This will revoke her POA. Maybe all his children can pitch in the cost with one of you being guardian. I think Medicaid allows you to recoup it from Dads money once you have guardianship. Guardians report to the State so must show financials showing money has not been spent in anyone but Dad.