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My daughter talked me into renting a room from her she said she could help me so much n I get time with the grandbaby a beautiful home my own room part is kids play room she takes my bank card every month to get my rent out I have no car and am disbles walking BUT she keeps it all my whole pay disability n s.s she also holds my food card she won't take me anywhere not even to my Dr says call rescue if feel good I have no clothes no shoes no I'm always in this room I ask her about my money she just tells me just tells I have kids car payments electric bills I don't see even one dolor sometimes I run out of my pain med hut she says she's broke jnow can't get it for me I get grocery's when she feels like goin shud I just glad I have a place with my grand kids they are allowed to runamuck in my room

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Contact Adult Protective Services in your area at once. Ask them to come to see you in your home. They will interview you ALONE without your daughter. Be honest with them. I fear you are currently being abused.
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BurntCaregiver Jul 23, 2025
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This person is exaggerating greatly and it sounds to me like she's just looking for attention and pity.

If the villian daughter whose life I bet has been made a miserable hell by her mother being in her home, was abusing her she would not "allow" her internet access to come here and complain.
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This is the definition of abuse. Please call the elder abuse telephone line.
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While your post is hard to follow as you didn't use any punctuation, I will say that NO you should not just be grateful that you have a place to stay where you are being held hostage and are being abused for your money and food card.
I would call Adult Protective Services and let them know what is going on and allow them to take over your care and find you a new place to live.
You deserve better as sadly your daughter is using and abusing you. I hope you will be proactive in taking your life back and stop allowing this abuse.
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There are laws to protect you. No one has the right to steal your money and confine you against your will. If Adult Protective Services can’t protect you, call 911 and ask for help. It’s up to you to do this. We can’t do it for you.

I hope you get the help you need.
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Call Adult Protection Services in your County. Your Social Security money needs to be used for you.
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Where were you living when your daughter talked you into moving into her children's playroom?

Did you not think they would be running amok in their playroom, where grandma now also stays?

How can your daughter "take" your bank card? Change the pin number on it and/or order a new one from your bank.

While that's happening, reach an agreement with your daughter about a rent price. Leave yourself enough funds leftover to get food, meds, clothing and shoes. The grandchildren must feel embarrassed seeing granny naked and in bare feet all the time.....

It feels like there is more to this story than you've written about. You're exaggerating greatly, it sounds like, but if not, you're being taken advantage of. But, if you call APS on your daughter, you'll likely never see her or your grandkids again.

So think about this carefully. Make sure you have your facts 100% straight before you make abuse accusations against your daughter. But do so IF you are truly being abused and have no money of your own to eat, clothe yourself or buy meds.

I wish you good luck and Godspeed.
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If that is all true, then that is considered elder abuse. And withholding medical care. And theft. And fraud. Your daughter is flirting with federal prison time by stealing your social security. Call 911. I must admit that I am very leery of the post though.
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First of all, you moved into your daughter's home and should not have done that if you are a total invalid who she must do everything for.

You knew going in that your room was also going to be part of a play room. Your daughter did not spring this on you after all your things were in her house.

It is also not your daughter's responsibility to clothe you and get you shoes. Obviously, you have internet access so do a bit of research for yourself on how to get some help.

It is not your responsibility to support your daughter's household. It's not your fault if she doesn't have money for her bills, and you should not be supporting her.

Before you moved in there should have been some written agreement about how much money you would be paying in RENT every month to her and contributing to the household. There should have been a discussion about how much caregiving you expect from her and clearly there was not.

It's time for you to go into Senior Living, AL, or if you are as disabled and invalid as you're claiming here, a nursing home.
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Yes, call 911 for getting abused!
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Msphappy: Contact APS.
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